The Chair Speech
Last night, we hosted our first meeting of The Society of Excellent Women and I'm still sort of in a daze. I made a little speech and I wanted to share it here with you, in case you couldn't make it last night, in case you live in another city and want to start your own chapter, or in case you're my mom. Without further introduction, here's my Chair Speech [meaning I made it while standing on a chair, not that I am in any way a Chair].
When the RSVP’s for this event started rolling in, we realized that we should probably make some sort of thank you speech to all of you for making this event what it is tonight. I must have been in some sort of pre-breakfast haze because for some reason I found myself volunteering as tribute to make the speech. So, forgive my shaky voice and wobbly knees, I promise I won’t take too long.
“Keep your fears to yourself, but share your courage with others.”
That’s the quote of the day in my planner this morning. I was looking for inspiration for this speech and this quote from Robert Louis Stevenson stuck out at me – mainly because, in all honesty, I disagree.
While I agree with Robert that it’s so important to share your courage with others, I don’t think keeping your fears to yourself is the right call. When we came up with the idea to host a slushie social, we did it because the three of us agreed that making friends as an adult can be all sorts of terrifying. I met Brittany years ago when I got a part time job and she was my manager, and I think I stared at all her cute accessories and awesome bangs for at least two hours before actually feeling confident enough to talk to her. The first time I met Emma, she ALMOST BAILED because she was scared to come over to my house. I’m talking sitting in her car giving herself a pep talk for five minutes, almost bailed. Luckily she changed her mind, brought some wine and the rest is history.
Putting yourself out there to make new friends has always been scary, but when you’re a grown up – without the safety net of shared classes, college roommates or extra curriculars in common? It’s straight up terrifying.
So we took a chance, we shared our fear with you – and holy cow – you excellent women listened. Not only did you listen, but you opened up to us. In the past week, we’ve been contacted by so many of you wonderful ladies – ladies we’ve followed on Instagram, old friends we lost touch with after college, even servers at brunch – to let us know that you love the idea, because hey – it IS scary to put yourself out there.
So here we are, joined together by our shared fear. And I don’t know about you guys, but I feel pretty great. Sharing my fears with you all, and having you all so openly reciprocate your own feelings of doubt and insecurity – I don’t know, maybe I’m crazy, but I think that it makes us all stronger as a whole. It makes us more open to communication, to compliments and to conversation. I know, I know, it’s just slushies, but hey – if it makes us all more confident and more kind, it’s totally worth it.
I’ll stop babbling now, but really on behalf of Brittany, Emma, Wet City and myself, I want to thank each and every one of you. I think we’re at the start of something great, and I can’t wait for us all to see it grow.